One of the best perks of being retired is having the opportunity to spend more time with our grandchildren. We love getting to attend their activities whenever it works out in everyone’s schedules. In our family this could be ballgames, swim meets, soccer games, band and choir concerts, dance recitals and events of award recognition. The last couple years have brought some of the grandkids in much closer proximity, so that of course makes it much easier to be part of their every day lives. When they are farther away, it takes some planning to assure that the visit happens. But it is always worth it! In addition to watching special events, I love just talking with them or playing a game together. Conversation and learning more about them happens naturally. Great memories!
When most people first become grandparents, they are usually still working full time and are less available to just stop and show up at fun events. That makes it hard, and of course we miss some special moments in the lives of our grandkids. In those cases, pictures and details shared by the kids or their parents just have to suffice.
In the last few months and into this one we are being blessed by games, concerts, plays, confirmation, and just plain having time to connect with our grandkids. It is such a joy to us. We are blessed to be a part of their lives, and we hope that they can sense how much we love them and care about who they are.
Bob Russell is a retired minister from Louisville, Kentucky, and a man whose writings we have enjoyed for many years. Just recently he spoke to a Grandparents Conference and shared ten principles that he has gleaned over time in his ministry and years of experience. I felt they were worth sharing and contemplating.
As our baby boomer age advances, there are several of us grandparents that could use some insight and encouragement along the way. As for those of you that are younger and following right behind, take heart and heed some good advice as you also grandparent those younger people in your lives.
1. A good relationship with your grandchildren is much more likely if you nurture a good relationship with their parents.
2. The younger years are usually the most enjoyable; the older years are probably the most important.
3. The best way to get close to and have an influence on your grandchildren is to arrange one-on-one time with them.
4. Its seldom the big deal that makes an impact, but the little everyday experiences. Take advantage of those.
5. Be intentional about getting together. If you don’t schedule it, it probably won’t happen.
6. Demonstrate your love by just showing up at special activities, but don’t expect much of a response.
7. The best contribution you can make is to share spiritual values with your grandchildren, and that usually happens spontaneously.
8. Be wise enough not to center your life on your grandchildren. Nurture other relationships along the way.
9. Take advantage of technology. Social media provides a golden opportunity to stay connected.
10. The way to make the biggest impact on your grandchildren is to finish strong spiritually.
As I finished reading Mr. Russell’s comments, he ended with these words: “ It is not what we say, but who we are that is remembered. It’s your character, your consistency that impacts your grandchildren. Let them see a spirit of joy in you. Don’t be moping around because you are older. Be confident and happy, and teach by your joyful example how to age well.”
Happy Grandparenting to all of you who have been blessed with this stage in life!!
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